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Originally Posted by Travelinglady
I think, given your childhood, you just didn't bond closely with them.
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IMO, they did not bond with him! I wanted to bond with my parents BUT they, not I, would not allow that to happen! My parents bonded real well with their fist child and their 3rd child - BUT NOT with me!
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And sometimes it takes years for us to relate to our parents.
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LOL, I totally related to my parents from the beginning but they succeeded in pushing me away with their hostility and brutality and they never did "relate" to me! I would have stayed close and "related" to both of them but they simply would NOT allow it!
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Sometimes it is best for folks with toxic parents to stay away.
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I agree with that!
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However, in your case, a response now and then might be nice for them--and for you to see if they respond in a way that's not hurtful to you.
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I wouldn't given them a chance to "respond" until AFTER they admit their mistakes and APOLOGIZE for making them! But I don't honestly believe that those kind of parents will ever take responsibility for their MISTAKES.
jim