Sometimes these experiences do help us grow into that better place even though it doesn't feel like it at the time.....it helps us open up areas that we have been keeping closed & protected so that we can process our reactions & learn how to better handle them in a more wise mind sort of way........

I know what you mean though....many things have come up that have taken me back to my dysfunctional parents & H & processing it with my psychologist was something I just brought up at our last appointment.....something that I had never talked about before....she was surprised that it was something that I struggled with.....our previous meeting had been left hanging with my comment....."I hated my H when he did that because it reminded me so much about what I didn't like about my father"......had to hold that thought & think about it for 2 weeks...but we had a good discussion about it this last time.

As not only did they state things as fact that weren't even the truth but they would ARGUE their point......can't believe I lived with it all my life...it was no wonder I had such a hard time wanting to communicate with people when I finally escaped that bad living environment.