I do this, labeling (judging). My therapist wonders why I punish myself like this, when I direct it toward myself. And what fears this behavior is about.

For example, this behavior of labeling others keeps me isolated, socially and at work. I am telling myself it is too scary to go 'out there' - I mean, my gosh, look at all the horrid people 'out there'! Who would want to put themselves in that place?

Judging/labeling myself negatively ("too old, too fat, too boring, etc) tells me that no one will like or accept me, so why even try. And that keeps me isolated, keeps me "safe" from risking being rejected (as well as being accepted, because that can be equally frightening and anxiety-provoking, right?).

We are deep and complex. We can't stop behaviors until we resolve and understand their meanings and origins.

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I am kind and thoughtful.
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