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Originally Posted by Zwangsstörung
I think you should get therapy, seriously. If it's affecting you so bad you're suicidal, you need to get help. There may be things you're inherently doing "wrong", and not realising it. (not necessarily your fault; could just be how you're raised, or just from lack of experience) I agree with hvert's post in its entirety. To summarize:
1. Get some professional help, ASAP.
2. Ask friends/family what you may be doing wrong, or something that gives off a bad impression.
3. See a doctor and I personally would recommend that you avoid prostitutes like the plague, but to each their own.
4. Perhaps start working out, if you aren't already. Lots of women seem to have a thing for muscles or at least a toned body. (as has been my experience, at least) If you're a bit messy, lack manners, etc, then it's worth sorting that out... from what I gather, women like a guy who's polite and "well-groomed", or at least makes an effort towards how he looks. I'm not judging you, because I haven't the foggiest what you're like, I'm just echoing the kind of crap I've heard or read online, and.. well, I suppose common-sense. You wouldn't wanna date a woman who lives in a toilet, would you? xD)
5. People keep saying that you have to get out there, do things where you can meet other women. Get involved with something you enjoy, and see if you meet anyone.
6. I love the idea of asking your friends to set you up with someone; could be a nightmare, but could also work well.
Best of luck.
PS
If it's any consolation, I'm 28 and have been in 2 serious relationships. I've been single for 3 or 4 years, now, following a heavy relationship that went to "feces". At first, I just didn't want anything to do with women, I didn't want to open up, I didn't want to get close, and I didn't want to be vulnerable; it still applies, but it's applying less with every day. I admit, I'm lonely, ... I miss "love", but, the way I see it, the more I get my crap together and mend the mess the past left behind, the better my chances of not only meeting a woman, but coping with a relationship, again. Also, I was about 22 before I got into that first relationship.
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Thanks for that, I am well-groomed and stuff, but my body is not good. I have an eating and weight problem, and it comes from something bad that happened to me as a child. Before that I was anorexic. I have this problem also where I never ever feel hungry and never feel full. So, I don't know when to eat and when to stop eating. I am addicted to sugar and caffeine (a popular soda drink, if you know what I mean) my whole life, since I can remember. My body is totally screwed by now and I'm sure I'm not going to reach 50 or even 30 anyway. When I was 8, one day my chest felt like it was caving in and there was a lot of pain. I think I had a heart attack maybe that day. I never told anyone. How I still lived after that I don't know. My body is genuinely beyond repair at this stage. I sometimes have blood coming out of the strangest places too.
I am actually over the whole sex part, I've had a lot of it already and it's not something I actually enjoy that much. The thing I miss in my life is just those special moments with someone special, you know, when you two sit together and hold each other tight and tell each other how much you love each other. I had a little bit of that with that one escort I was talking about but not to the same extent, since we weren't in love as such.
I can't ask my friends or family stuff like that. They are so unapproachable with anything. My dad makes jokes of everything and tries to take over completely, my mom lives in denial, I have no siblings and all my friends have left me. I am literally all on my own in this. My therapist doesn't really want to discuss these things, she rather wants to talk about my dysfunctional family.