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Originally Posted by hvert
With the friend-zone thing -- I can imagine a couple of scenarios.
1. The girl is interested. You chat. No one makes a move. The next day the same thing happens. She figures you aren't interested. The third day, she treats you as if you are not interested.
2. You chat. She isn't interested in you romantically but senses your interest in her. She starts telling you about her boy trouble to let you know she isn't interested.
There are a ton of other scenarios, but until you are more direct about your romantic interest, you will never know what is going on. When you meet a girl you like, I would directly indicate interest by the end of the first or second conversation. By direct, I mean asking her out on an obviously romantic date i.e. dinner and a movie or offer to buy her a drink. If she shows interest, nail down a time and a place immediately.
You have nothing to lose, right? You aren't looking for another friend, so if she says no, just move on. Don't waste your time being bored to death by their problems, unless they show you the same courtesy.
It sounds like you got to be pretty close with that other woman, so that's proof it's possible - you just have to find the right one.
It takes A LOT of misses before you get a hit. Dating can be horrible. I agree with the advice above, too -- and improving your physical appearance is huge. My dating pool increased ridiculously when I lost 25 lbs.
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I've actually thought about those things you've said, that maybe I have to tell her direct in the beginning that I want to take her out on a date.
I want to lose weight, I wish I could. I just love food so much, especially the junk food and the soda drinks. I get withdrawal if I don't eat or drink those things. It's truly the highlight of my day at this point. That's why I want to die, because I have nothing left to live for anymore. I hate my life. There is nothing that inspires me or attracts me anymore. I know I'm a horrible person and someone with so little doesn't deserve a girlfriend. I don't know how things became like this, it's always just been this way, basically my whole life. It's just, when I was younger, I liked one or two things still, like my school work. Now I hate everything.
I tried exercises, about two years ago I cycled 10 miles daily for about 3 months. The year before that I cycled the same amount too. Now, I know that is nothing compared to what other people do, and I wasn't expecting to lose like 50 or 60 pounds, but I didn't even lose 1 pound. I left the sodas everything, just drank water, no junk food. I suffered through the daily withdrawal symptoms. I gained 10 pounds in weight. So I decided it wasn't worth the effort. Now, I eat what I want, drink what I want and haven't even gained 1 pound, I'm still the same size, despite doubling my intake of food even. I've tried weightlifting, dieting, etc. all did nothing. I'm fat and that's it by the looks of things.