Silver Tree-that's what I said. I don't know if I recommended a couple books or not but the vibrator thing is just not a good idea to start out with, I totally agree.

Not all therapists are good. I've went through 100 it seems.

If he sees a psychiatrist for meds, he'd be better off asking them this question if they give him time. My psychiatrist is just for med management but he'll also answer anything I ask him. I haven't found a therapist that has been helpful in 12 years for that kind of thing. I'm not saying there aren't good ones. I think some just get creeped/weirded out.

Put it this way, my last one took 15 min of every 50 min session to just write a receipt for my copay. The one before that told me our meeting place, at a church, was compromised so she pretty much ditched me. Didn't return my calls or anything.