I had a toxic mother. I broke it off with her about 12 years ago. Now she is in hospice and needs me to handle her financial affairs. I check on her to make sure she is kept clean and fed and treated well in her group home. I make sure the hospice firm is doing its job. I am exceptionally honest in dealing with her money. Other than that, I owe her nothing. I don't feel guilty at all for not visiting her. It was her choice when she abused me.