Though I'm sorry that people have not had luck with CBT, I can't say I'm surprised. I haven't had it as an individual therapy. I have been exposed to it in groups and felt it not only ignored emotions and was simplistic, but it had potential to do harm by "blaming the victim." I know more about it from the perspective of someone training to be a therapist. While there is tons of research supposedly proving its effectiveness and lots of agencies choose it, there are obvious problems with it.

In terms of what to do instead, which is the important thing here, there are some suggestions. I do think that DBT is better; it makes sure that it is not invalidating and teaches mindfulness and other skills. Still, it is in the same camp as CBT so may not be the answer. It would be easy to find out if it were a possibility by going online since a lot of the worksheets and such are available.

I myself do psychoanalytically-informed therapy and love it. It does address emotions, does deal with deeper issues, is able to handle complexity, and is also very personally tailored. Don't go by stereotypes about psychoanalysis. The new forms have thrown out a lot of that old stuff and are very focused on the relationship and very interactive. The relationship with the therapist in broad studies about what works is way more important that a particular technique. Unfortunately not all CBT therapists allow that as an emphasis.