Hi newbie12

Books and therapy and time is probably the best way to go. Maybe a sexual therapist is better for advice.

Sorry you haven't found a therapist you like. A church is maybe a strange place to meet? Though as good a place as any I suppose and if you felt it was the best and safest to talk then...

I don't need to open up about 'that kind of thing' really, but I have thought they would be alright with that subject, how strange. Am sure that you feel uncomfortable now and it makes that feel worse?

I find it hard to talk to any therapist really. It helps to have it, but that's been as much about reflection and challenging myself afterwards, than expressing stuff at the time. I think being honest with T (or anyone) about yourself is really hard.

I hope you find a good therapist x