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Originally Posted by IndestructibleGirl
I do know what you mean. When I was very young, I spoke and behaved far beyond my years, with the result that I witnessed a lot of adult conversations that were really age inappropriate. I coped with some of this by freezing off reactions to stuff I couldn't handle, and then felt slightly superior to others my age who acted in an 'immature' way - but of course they really weren't being immature, they were just expressing the emotions I never let myself feel.
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Yes, this happened to me as well. I wasn't protected or sheltered from some adult topics I should have been. I was also abused, both physically and emotionally, and I had to be responsible for how everyone else in my family was feeling. You grow up quickly in that scenario. A friend pointed out to me recently that I had to "fix" all the problems in my family, that was my role, and that I didn't know how to live outside of that. And they are right. I don't know how to have a role different than "care taker" of everyone else. And so to take even a little bit of time for myself is so scary and confusing.
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Originally Posted by sweepy62
Lol hazelgirl , it just sneaks up on you out of nowhere. To tell you the truth I think therapists like when that happens, they are weird like that lol.
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I'm sure my T would be delighted. I wouldn't be. I would be mortified and terrified by her reaction. Even just thinking about it terrifies me.
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Originally Posted by blur
i think your emotions, desires, passion and sense of play are just catching up to your thinking self. that is a good thing. you are coming alive! neither reason nor emotion is better nor more mature than the other. feeling our feelings and acting on them are different and it is probably more the acting on them or acting out them that is where immaturity comes in. our thinking can be just as screwy as our feelings too. without emotions life is just a dull gray and who wants that. enjoy being a teen!
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Your comment made me think.
I think I compensated for my emotional maturity by being very intellectually mature. I needed to in order to survive. Part of the consequences of that was shutting off my emotions, which never really grew up. Hmm...
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Originally Posted by RTerroni
I was actually bulled a lot when I was young (although most of that stopped by the time I got to High School) but that didn't prevent me from have an enjoyable adolescence.
Just like "The Ataris" song goes "being grown up isn't half as fun as growing up, these are the best days of our lives".
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I was abused in high school and couldn't wait until I was 18 and could escape the insanity. You couldn't pay me a million dollars to go back. Probably not a billion, either. I don't think I could survive a second round of that craziness.