Yes Jane, that's exactly right, thats the smart part of you that needs to grow and blossom. But for yourself too Jane, and you are right, that's hard because just like you when I share things I feel "guilty, like it's wrong and someone is going to tell me so too, yeah I know the feeling quite well.

I know Mowtown felt that way too, but since he has realized and been supported to feel better about himself here and there by people that have healthier senses of "emotional needs", he is blossoming and he is amazing at how supportive and caring he is, and it's so genuine and from the heart. And you know what that is? True emotional maturity, not this crap people hand out about "don't feel, don't share what you feel".

And Jane, but strenthing that part of you that tends to get shut out from getting stronger and developing emotional maturity to "feeling and sharing", you will make gains too, it's definitely there.