Books are fairly cheap these days thanks to Amazon, unless it was a university textbook or a treatise. It might have been better to call it quits over the phone or in another non-in-person way and cut your losses, which include the virginity lost in a way that was far less than optimal and the book. I mean - for you, with your upbringing, the virginity was a big thing. Your mourn that loss now. So having lost something so "expensive" why did you care about a "cheap" book? There is a Russian saying that translates as: "Once the house is on fire, it does not matter much if a shed in the backyard catches fire."

Alternatively, you could have mailed him a prepaid envelope with your return address so that he could just drop off the book at the nearest mailbox or kinko's for fedex.

But in no event should you have bitten the bait.

I mean - it is not chivalrous of him to tell you that you had to come to pick up the book. He should have offered to drop it off or to mail it to your home address. Since he did not do that, and this is something he should have done on his own without being prompted or guided, it was by then a lost cause - the book incident is very telling.

Taking your virginity in such a rude, disrespectful, and egotistic fashion was bad enough for the main course; the book incident was the "dessert". Enough now.

I think the expectations of your parents are unrealistic, but you are entitled to and should reasonably expect to be meeting chivalrous guys. Discards go into the discard pile.