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Originally Posted by skies_
I sometimes think my T is mad at me too (and do the placating thing), but it always turns out that he isn't.
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so far, that has been my experience with this t also...
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It doesn't sound inappropriate at all. Just be prepared at next session to talk about why you called! That sounds like the sort of thing i'd want to text my T about, then i'd feel slightly embarrassed the next time I see him.
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As for the vulnerability issues, a longer, in-session discussion might be best. If you don't want to separate the 2 issues, then maybe just wait till next session?[/qoute]
I think I may wait. having thoguht about it overnight, I think it's something that can maybe wait till saturday... it hits in waves though, so I may well end up at least leaving a message asking if she could help me talk about this next time.
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Originally Posted by skies_
If she's not available in between sessions, maybe you could add to the message that you are not expecting a call back. Still, she might see such a phone message as off limits. But you don't know that unless you try. It is possible that she might say something about calling in between sessions too.  |
i have called and just left messages in the past, which she said were ok, but that she doesn't always have the ability to call back. She seems open to getting info via messages and stuff I write to her, but I don't want to push my boundaries. maybe I need to include a discussion clarifying what is and is not ok with her?
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I wonder though, if the need to contact is more of a result of thinking she is angry at you, or maybe a need for reassurance of the relationship?
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thanks. I think it's probablly some of both. i have such a hard time maintaining connection that, whenever somethign really vulnerable comes up, I need that reassurance that 1) she's not mad or frustrated, and 2) that she's still there. :/ I wish this wasn't such a hard learning process.