Both of my parents were absent: my dad literally out to sea and mom just distant and indifferent. I actually had a pre-verbal re-experiencing that gave some indications of how awful that was. My therapist later said that he was having difficulty getting his head around how a mother could turn away from a vulnerable and appropriately needy infant. But mine did. It was neglect. Mostly emotional but it bordered on more than emotional deprivation since there were also problems with proper general care (food, clothing, medical, dental). The emotional was far worse. And apparently neglect in general (however defined) has as strong if not stronger traumatic impact than a clear cut event. Sad but I don't think this is a totally unusual experience. The good news is that you can correct most of it, given the time and perhaps help to do so. If you are projecting it onto your therapist or anyone else that really shouldn't surprise anyone.