DD - you feel bad because the guy is not treating you well, but you are internalizing it, so instead of telling him: "well, how do you expect an attractive single woman to not end up being wanted by many men and actually go for it with a subset of those men??", you feel like a girl who has done something bad.

Your little questionnaires make no statistical sense and you should know better than administer them to your friends - I mean, you work in a college setting, right? Should know something about bias, statistical significance, underreporting etc. So why are you doing that?

You are talking with heterosexual people. So these men must be having sex with women, and vice versa. Then it is not possible - think about it and try to picture it - that men have so much more sex than women. So men must be inflating the figures to appear more successful while women must be underreporting to appear more conventional.

In the past it was true that men could have many many more different women, but that was because of the institution of prostitution. Nowadays, most of sex does not involve monetary exchanges, so - unless these guy are counting sex dolls as partners , there is some scheming going on in reporting, in both genders.