Oh, she very much can!!!

Moreover, she can outdo them. But for that you need to be yourself and not try to match up to them.

If you try to match up to them, you won't even get there, but if you are your own self (and I am sure you can be seductive, mercurial, alluring, tender, gracious, awesome, or whatever it is that your partner associates with high level of sexiness), then you can easily outdo them.

I have never been to a strip club but I once went into a restaurant (in 1997) that had a pole for strip dancing, but somehow there was no show when my then new now ex H went in.

I think he caught me looking at the pole with some apprehension and hastened to assure me that the reality of strip dancing is nothing compared to what I might picture in a fantasy, i.e. how I would have done it.

Many years later I watched Carmen Elektra's pole dancing and realized just how my H was right. What she is doing is basically a workout. It has zero sensuality to it. Provocativeness, maybe, but true eroticism, no. She has her form but has no grace to her movements. As a sport, it is fine, but it is not sexy, in my opinion.

Disclaimer - I am old-fashioned and find nudes by Manet and Modigliani incredibly sexy. The idea of sexy 6-packs, biceps etc. is foreign to me.