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Originally Posted by Leah123
I hope he won't rely on your continual improvement for his validation. My therapist often talks about how healing is circular, not linear, and I believe we all have ups and downs, I know I do! Life's variables keep most things from occurring in a perfectly straight, clean process.
I imagine he'd derive satisfaction from you trusting him and opening up as well as for being there for you when you could most benefit from his services. I know my therapist does.
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He doesn't strike me as the type to need validation, but he does work hard. Doesn't everyone need to feel good about work? I guess it goes back to feeling like a burden.
And feeling like I don't deserve to be cared for unless I 'give something back'. Which is how my mother was....maybe most of the fear originates from that same issue.
I appreciate the thought about trusting and opening up.
Part of it, that I didn't mention earlier, is that I think he made a mistake that led to this (in part). He's never mentioned making a mistake before or doing something wrong in the past (in my therapy); that sort of concerns me. I want to bring it up, and I have trouble holding back anything from him. Last time when I brought up that he made a mistake, it didn't go too well. I was really surprised.