It seems like you are caught in some sort of negative loop -- like you are just so frustrated and fed up that any solution seems obviously doomed.

It's not just people with autism that have to present a false self to the world. Almost everyone does. We have to put on clothes, pretend to be nice when we don't really feel like it, politely smile when it's appropriate, let others go first if they were ahead of us in line, make small talk about the weather for the twentieth time this week, etc. People judge us based on the way we look and interact.

It sounds like you've taken a lot of abuse for being the way you are, and that sucks. Instead of railing against the way the world is, it seems much easier to simply accept it for what it is. It's not going to change. Our perceptions can change. We can change some things within our control - but society, the world - that is not going to change. Hating the way it is won't make any difference. It is what it is and we have to figure out how we can be happy within this framework.

I really think you can find other people like you if you look in the right places, even though you think your culture is full of shallow people. You will find high concentrations of people who like being locked up in rooms for eight hours fooling around with stuff the think is cool but which bores other people to death in areas where software developers congregate. Many will scoff at the idea of eight hours - more than one of my friends has slept on their office floor for a week so they could devote every spare hour to finding the solution!

There are other people like you out there, even in your country. Don't write them off before you meet them. Maybe that person you think is normal is just pretending, who knows?