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Old Sep 07, 2014, 08:47 PM
BlackSheep79 BlackSheep79 is offline
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Originally Posted by Miguel'smom View Post
"will I ever get the happy girl I met again back" I get that said to me a lot. and I usually remark "Oh, the one that did (insert insane, hurtful, or messed up thing here)? You can have her back if you want just give me about a week." and I stand there's smiling. Usually that's when he realized what he just said and tries to back track.

A lot of this seems like he's having issues accepting the adult he's become and at least partially blaming you for it. He needs a therapist of his own to deal with this and any stress that his or your issues bring to him. What did you guys do when you went out before.
When we met we went to the movies a lot, that was our thing. We live in a small town so there isn't a whole lot to do. I was so independent when I met him and was for the longest time. I had to be growing up, workaholic parents that didn't give a crap about my mental illness and still don't. I even raised my sister and have given her a place to stay for years now. I did it all on my own and over the years I grew to rely on him to do a lot of things. Anyway, I try all of the time to go out and have fun with him. I don't have my own friends, his friends are my friends. About once a month I go and hang out with all of them, we all work together and get along great. Him and I do at least one thing on the weekend together unless I am doing really really bad.