Second time in about a year.

I'm wondering how I pick these people, because clearly I am the common factor in all these relationships. One of my friends tells me that I shouldn't think that way, that I have no way of knowing what the other person is capable of doing, and no control over what they choose to do. I'm not sure if I agree.

Things have been difficult, but he pursued me through all our ups and downs (mostly my downs) over the last couple of months. However, we are both on meds and have opposite side effects because of them: His sex drive is heightened whereas mine is diminished. It's really the worst combination.

I know I'm not the easiest person to be with, and it was dreadful timing that I met him at the beginning of another emotional down-swing. I tried to stay communicative during all of that because I needed him to know that none of it had anything to do with him. I tried to express my appreciation and affection for him. I'm sure I could have done better, and maybe I should have forced myself to do more, but I believed him when he said he wanted things to go "one day at a time", and that he wasn't going anywhere.

I didn't believe he would choose to do this to me, especially since he knew my ex broke up over text message and he spoke vehemently about how cowardly and disrespectful it was. But recently, after a week of terse, one-word text message replies from him (and no answers when I tried to call) he finally admitted he was "frustrated with [me]" but he couldn't say why because he "didn't want to pressure [me]" (ie. discuss our mismatched sex drives).

Then he said, "There's no point in talking about it", and "It's my problem, not yours". After three days of nothing he messaged me again today:

"I guess we are done". And, "Are we?"

I haven't replied. The guy put in such effort to allow me the time to open up, but then after only two months he wants to throw in the towel over the fact we haven't had sex yet. Don't get me wrong, I think sex is extremely important in any intimate/romantic relationship, but I need time to get there and he has spent the last 8 weeks telling me that he wants me to take as much time as I need.

I get that he has to do what is right for him, and it sucks, but being respectful and kind to both parties at least could have "left the door open" for a later possibility. I'm just done with dating people who can turn on a dime like this. The last time I saw him I thought we had a great evening.

Now this.

I don't understand how I deserved to be treated like that for the past week-and-a-half. And I'm really hurt and insulted he chose to break up with me over text message.