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Originally Posted by growlycat
You could make a trip out of this. What else would you want to do if you went to the East coast?
My therapist of 20 plus years is on the East Coat and I am on the West coast. Most of those years I saw him in person and I know what you mean. I miss his presence, his cluttered office. Going for walks with him, swapping books with him, and the ability to get a hug too.
Because of insurance problems, I now only talk to him by phone once every 2 weeks for 20 minutes. But during the holidays, I fly home to visit family and I will see him in person for a long session.
I've ended up seeing another T too out here, partially because I really need therapy with a live person once a week, plus my insurance actually covers him pretty well.
It may be worth it to see her, but I highly suggest having other things to look forward to on such a trip. Otherwise, you could feel let down after a 15 minute visit.
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Thanks for replying. I appreciate that you can relate and I'm sorry too. Our relationship is so strong, I often don't mind the distance, but the longing does hit me from time to time, especially when I think about the possibility of never seeing her, never having something more concrete, more tactile than typewritten words.
I have imagined such a trip: either a week spent on my own, sight seeing and doing meaningful things with the meeting just one highlight or a week spent with family where this was a stopoff on the way to a more kid-friendly destination. I've even considered just flying out and right back again, so as not to kid myself about any other attraction approaching the importance of meeting her.
I could see another therapist too, I have considered it, but... she holds my entire story, no one's ever done that for me before and I wouldn't feel quite right at this stage dividing up pieces of my life among two therapists.