I can understand where a lot of you take that statement as hurtful. It's not easy keeping things balanced especially with being bipolar but also on the same note you have to consider what our loved ones mean when they are saying it. I don't think they are meaning to be hurtful. I think they feel defeated. Your condition doesn't affect just you but significantlyrics affects those around you. They are carrying heavy emotions and burdens along with them. Some significant others feel emotions of their partnerstuff just as strongly as their partner is feeling. So when you are going through a cycle, imagine the toll it is taking on them as well. You may not be facing it alone even though it may feel that way. Saying, "I wish I could get the girl I married back," doesn't necessarily mean anything harmful, but that they want things to get better. They want you to feel better and for your relationship to see happier times. Considering this as a disease, it would be like saying, "I miss the times we had before the cancer took over. I wish you could get better because I don't want to lose you." Be thankful you have someone by your side that is fightino this with you and wants to try to recover and live happily.