Thanks everyone... I really appreciate hearing everyone's experiences with this, and it's helpful to see that so many others have had to "process" past therapy with the current therapist. It's also really awesome to hear about Ts that have taken your side, and acknowledged other Ts bad behavior!

I think part of it is... yeah, I'm not really 100% sure how much was "my fault". I still think... gosh... this guy taught at my school, seemed really smart, was ethical, seemed like a good person and therapist... what the heck did I do wrong? Which, of course, makes me scared that I'm going to keep screwing up with every therapist... (I've had a couple other less than stellar therapy experiences).

So far, while this new T is not perfect... I think he has a pretty strong sense of self (I hope). Last time, I brought the list of things that had bugged me from the session before... and asked if it was too "nitpicky" (I had posted this too) or mean... he said "absolutely not" and then joked that he has "pretty good self-confidence".

So while not perfect... I'm hoping he can do what seems like such a very basic T-task, keep his stuff separate from my stuff, and not assume that if I'm shut down it's because I hate him

Oh, yeah, and all this is definitely now on the list. The list (of stuff to talk about) is going frightening long though!

Thanks everybody!!!