I think you will see how your prior work in t has changed you. Thats how it worked for me. You may find yourself confiding and connecting with her in ways you never did before. Last week i was just eating lunch in a diner, and the busguy (a little old to be called a busBOY) was talking to me. Even a few years ago, friendly and outgoing as i am, i would have been secretly wondering why he was talking to me. Now i know why people talk to me - im as worthy a human as anyone else. I didnt always know that, or feel that. It doesnt sound like much, but its like taking off cement overshoes.