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Originally Posted by A Red Panda
Ok, so I relate a lot to the things that you are saying. You should do some reading on Cognitive Distortions because you likely have quite a few of them. CBT therapy might help you overcome at least a few of them.
Along with social anxiety, you might want to read a bit about Avoidant Personality Disorder. They have a lot of similarities. But really, only a professional can help you determine what.
I will, however, reiterate what Trippin said: you can't read their minds. So, no matter what has happened in the past... you can't judge new people based on other people. You can't read their minds and you will interpret everything that the say, do, or simply look... you'll get those things to agree with your own negative bias about yourself because you're so sure that you know what they really think. Try noticing those thoughts when you have them, and challenge it. "That person hates me... why do I think they hate me? They aren't smiling when I smiled. Oh... that doesn't mean that they hate me... maybe they're just in a bad moor or thinking hard about something."
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That's not that simple. From every school I went, this phase is by far the one when I have been more rejected, rejected without any concern about how I would feel. Those same people that I fear I am being anoying to are the same I thought were somehow my friends and then I discovered that all of them made lots of plans together and never invited me to go with them. With this attitude from them I felt I was someone they didn't want to be with and I step back (I feel bad beeing with people that don't want me).
And even so, how this and others that are good friends from these are the only collegues I have on university, they are still the ones I may try to be with.