What is "sui"?
What is "eff up"?
Sorry about that. My brother is now living a normal life.
I'd guess that all of them are victims of some kind of INADEQUATE parenting.
I sure wouldn't "demonize" anyone for their bad parenting or being the victims of bad parenting BUT calling something what it is seems appropriate to me which is why I am certain that bad parenting caused my brother to end up in jail. The story of how that all occurred is pretty long so I will spare others the trouble of reading it. Maybe others can see this in their own family and life if they look deeply and seriously enough.
I have no idea what "sui" means but I am dead certain how and why bad parenting finally contributed to my brother's choice to commit armed robbery. I don't "blame" them for what he did but I absolutely blame them for setting him up to finally go there! Fortunately for him, he found some better and healthier role models in and after Prison to overcome the unhealthy conditioning our parents placed in him years before. The only reason that I did not submit to my parents inadequate programing was that I was extremely afraid of authority figures and never had the GUTS to turn to crime like my brother did. I often admired his courage to go against authority but never had the nerve to join a gang and pull off jobs!
Cool! How are you dealing with your anger?
good luck,
jim