the term ...flashback...just means you are reliving a memory. it doesnt matter if you are an alter or the host.

I'm not sure what you mean about ... Is it possible I disassociated to my son's mom. here where I am located disassociated (pronounced dis associated) means to purposely disengage/purposely stop doing something. ie I disassociated playing softball meaning I quit playing softball. so are you asking me if you are purposely stopped doing something with your son's mom?

dissociation is different than flashbacks. dissociation is feeling numb, spacy, foggy minded, not feeling, where as flashbacks are feeling and reliving a memory...

example

when stressed at work I feel numb, foggy minded. (dissociation)

when at the coffee machine the smell of the coffee caused me to flashback to mornings with my mother making coffee. I felt like I was back there laying in bed and my mom was making the coffee.

Are you possibly talking about co consciousness? thats when there is sharing of memories, thoughts between the alters (alter to alter) or between the alters and host. this is different than having a flashback.

A flashback is reliving something that happened in the past/ good or bad. (the example with the coffee)

co consciousness is.... hearing the voices of the others, knowing what the others are doing/saying/thinking. for example rainy showing me or telling me something that went on with her, hearing Rainys voice, knowng Rainy exists, hearing Rainy talk with my therapist, ....

it doesnt matter which alter experienced the memory a flashback is a flashback (reliving a memory, emotions event from the past) and co consciousness is co consciousness the sharing/being aware of....