another update for you all my employer told me today they will no longer let me work with medical restrictions they said i could get my doctor to lift them i could go on medical leave act or i could be out of a job i choose to go on medical leave i have to borrow from my parents to do this i will have the surgery while i still have insurance and i will not be returning to my job because in all likely hood they will try to fire me when i get back from medical leave so i am officially done seeing my stalker at work thank you all for your advice it helped now hopefully i can now deal with my medical situation my bills and find a new job