Ah, Jimmy, I'm sorry. I thought my meaning was clear. Actually, I was taking in the totality of the threads and posts of yours I've read and enjoyed throughout the forums. Perhaps my post here seemed to come out of left field and held no direct meaning to this subject matter, although I thought it did. There have been a few little things in other threads that left me a bit worried. I will post in the areas that are probably more appropriate.

The saying is that anger is a luxury we can't afford. And I have no trouble saying both anger and resentment are luxuries I can't afford because I I do sometimes have concerns for others as well as myself and try to carry a message forward that has worked for thousands of people. I do apologize if my particular choice of words were out of place in this particular thread. Actually, I thought I was preaching to the choir and no explanation would be necessary. It's not something I would have shared otherwise.

Part of that message is this, which I find extremely apropos for this thread:

I've read Alice Miller, too, and don't know if the two approaches are really compatible. Everyone has to make their own choices. I wish you the best.