Mouse - thanks, I'm curious about the "triangulate" thing. When I was seeing old T, I also was doing email-T at the same time (to help me understand why T was going so badly). Email T was *great* and told me he'd only talk to me if I also stayed in face-to-face T... but real-T hated it. He didn't tell me outright to stop, but said I was "triangulating" (without explaining anymore) . Instead of making me feel bad about it, I wish he could have a) seen that it was a helpful thing for me and b) realized that part of it was that I *couldn't* talk to him about how awful therapy was going for me... and maybe tried to help some with that. Frustrating experience.

RTerroni and Artemis-Within - thanks!

Archipelago - Wow! Great example though... see that's what makes me crazy. The whole point of therapy is to deal with your (the client's) own stuff. I can't understand why a (good!) T would let themselves get pulled in to stuff, like thinking you're accusing them of not being generous enough? Even if that's what you really wanted to convey, shouldn't they be... I don't know, not emotional about it? Like explore why you feel like that's important, and what not?

Winenot3 - thanks for this. I'm glad the 2nd therapist was helpful, and it makes so much sense! I'm not there yet with this T (I'm still pretty new), but it's good to hear about it, should things go wonky in the future!

Anyway, thanks! Like I said, I've got this on my list... I just don't think I'm going to make it to this item this week... there's a couple other more pressing things to talk about. But, soon. We'll see if it helps! Thanks.