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Originally Posted by Zwangsstörung
Welcome to Psych Central, new guy245.
How old is the student? If he's getting married, I can't imagine he's much older than you, or maybe even older. I assume you are male, ... there's been no mention that he's gay/bi, so... are you sure you've read him right in that regard? Although it does strike me as unusual for a straight person to shower a man, his tutor no less, with compliments like that, unless he just really respects you and cares what you think of him.
I definitely think you need to talk about this, because it's causing a problem, and the last thing you want is to damage your professional reputation over a crush. Could you speak to a professional about this? Could you take some time off, to get him out of your mind? I would also keep him at a distance; what he's doing is just as inappropriate as what you're doing; you're both adults, but it's a purely professional setting.
I still think seeing a professional could help, in-case this happens again in the future.
Best of luck.
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This student is in his late twenties. His comments sometimes come off like he is not straight. I have picked up on a few things. For instance, there were times he has commented on things such as I have great hair. But obviously he is engaged to a woman.
There was one time when he showed a picture of him with his girl friend and I got really annoyed by it. It was so obvious and he actually knew that it affected me. That's why I don't understand why he somehow is unable to keep things about his dating life out of our discussion.
But, you are correct. I need to distance my self from him. It's going to be very hard for me to do that but I have no other choice. I am afraid that If I keep encouraging his office visits, the crush will only grow even stronger.