Thread: T's own issues
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Old Sep 09, 2014, 02:21 PM
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Ugh, I feel so crappy posting about this, but it is playing on my mind more than it should.

My T is currently going through a rough patch in his own life; he hasn't given me a lot of details for obvious reasons but he alluded to the fact he is under a great deal of strain personally and says he has to "make sure he is fit to practice". He is only a part time T and has another job working with people with physical disabilities, which i think is contributing to his stress.

It has raised lots of conflicting emotions in me. I am having to do a lot of personal processing to ensure I am keeping my own emotional needs my priority, because I have a history of sacrificing my own feelings in order to help others.
I asked him if moving to fortnightly sessions would be helpful, and he said possibly, but deep down I know I need the weekly contact.
The other side is that I can't completely disregard his emotional wellbeing because if he is not emotionally ok then therapy will be ineffective.

The only possible solution I can think to suggest is a temporary referral to a different T to give him some breathing space to sort his own material out with a view to returning to him eventually. I wouldn't want to leave him permanently because I have invested a lot in him in terms of disclosure and he understands me well. The therapy is very good at the moment and I am making good progress.

The added potential complication is that this situation is stirring up feelings for him that really are a desire to care for him, which is obviously not conducive to therapy.

I feel that I am able to process all of this and keep a check of these feelings and continue to have the same productive therapy we always have. I just don't know whether he is in a place to offer me the support I need at the moment.
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