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Originally Posted by growlycat
Maybe T can help you make a plan for each stage of what you and your H are going through. I know that you can't plan for everything, but maybe T can help structure the time. What maybe to expect as much as you are able? How to say what you and H need to say to each other.
I hate that nice people have to go through such painful experiences.  |
Thanks, growly. My T brought up hospice today and I kind of spaced out. She also suggested talking to my adult children but I am panicking about that. They know, but she means to ask how they're doing/dealing with it.
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Originally Posted by hankster
Rain, i know what you mean about wanting to sit in her lap. After my hellacious day yesterday with my family's impromptu visit, when i saw t today, walking out we didnt have our usual hug - i just stood there a moment leaning my head on his shoulder. His saying "see you next time" sounded so dependable and secure - he always says it but it sounded different this time.
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That's nice. I'm glad your T gave you what you need!
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Originally Posted by tigergirl
(((((((Rain)))))))))
Even though your T can't change things with your H's health ... sometimes it helps just expressing those desires
letting her know you wish she could protect you ... letting her know you wish she could change what is going on ... letting her know how you are feeling
it is one place you should be able to be safe to share what you are really thinking without needing to worry about taking care of other peoples needs (which whether we really need to or not can come up with other family)
I hope that the two of you can find ways for her to keep giving you support
and comfort; letting you know she is there as much as she can be
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tigergirl, I wanted to tell my T those things you wrote above, but I couldn't! I wasn't totally present in the session. I didn't want to here her talk about hospice, and learning how to do the financial stuff my H has always taken care of. It's just hard to hear the practical stuff and I couldn't express my feelings too well either. Maybe next time....
[QUOTE=JustShakey;3986492]QUOTE] Thank you for the hugs!
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Originally Posted by JustShakey
This sounds... lovely...
I wish I could do it with my T. Actually hugging him would be a little scary. He's kinda extra large and I'm extra small...
Mind you I'd probably have to stand on a stool to reach his shoulder  |
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Originally Posted by sweepy62
I'm sorry rain, it's a tough road but your a strong woman. It won't be easy , I just got through dealing with that, if you need extra support feel free t pm me.
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Thank you. Maybe I will PM you.
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Originally Posted by JaneC
I'm sorry rainbow. What a horrid time to have to face.
It would be wonderful if your T could just hold your hand and help you to find some reassurance. Can you ask her for this first before facing the rest?
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Thanks, Jane. My T holds my hand during every session but we didn't do it until the end. I somehow didn't ask for what I needed today.
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Originally Posted by Aloneandafraid
I am so sorry Rain - sending you hugs.
Keep posting/sharing. We're all here for you.
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Thanks, alone.
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Originally Posted by Brightheart
I'm so sorry you're going through this, Rainbow. I think it's good to keep reaching out and expressing yourself, lean on friends for support as much as you need... I hope you will allow your feelings, all of them. Life can be so hard. We are here for you. |
Thanks, Brightheart. I'm having trouble expressing feelings but I know I have to try.
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Originally Posted by blur
rain, i'm so sorry about your husband's health prognosis. while your T can't protect you from what you and H will experience she can walk with you through it. |
Yes, that's what she's going to do, and I'm grateful.
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Originally Posted by StillSearching11
I'm sorry you're going through something so rough. I feel that way about therapy sometimes too. Sometimes things just suck, and I don't need a therapist to try to make me think more positively about the situation or to try to fix the situation because it's just a crappy situation that doesn't need sugar coating. It would certainly be nice to just talk and be heard in those circumstances, but I guess a lot of therapists don't view that as therapy. |
My T lets me do what I want in therapy, and she also tries to get me to see the reality, like talking about hospice. Thanks for replying to me.
I had to delete some hugs; it wouldn't let me post with them.