I think it is really hard for Ts when this type of dynamic is at play. They might feel a desire to provide the nurturance that is needed - almost pulled to do so. Yet, my theory is that they know it's not the ultimate goal. Maybe the goal is more to feel loved, yes - but not from our Ts or from anyone else. From within.

You know what the good thing would be about this? No one could take it away from us then