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Originally Posted by nynaeve.almeara
I was already seeing a therapist and I talked to her about it, but she told me I don't really have anger problems; it's because my boyfriend and I aren't compatible.
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What else did she say? Did she offer you any ideas about coping with him or solving the problem? Did your therapist offer you ANYTHING to deal with your boyfriend issues?
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He is a really great guy, he is sweet and caring and we have had some really good times. But quite suddenly, his mood would change, he would become angry if I made something to eat for myself and forgot to ask him, or if I said something silly, which he didn't like;
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Now that my self esteem is good, I wouldn't spend another second with someone like that. Did your therapist ever tell you how to handle such an abusive person?
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I tried to confront him about his moods but he said it happens because I talk too much and he doesn't get a chance to say anything; he feels like I'm pushing his buttons. So a few times, while we have been arguing, he would push me and hold me down, either against the wall or on the bed until I would ask him to stop. I ignored it in the beginning because apart from these times, he was not aggressive.
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Did your therapist ever explain to you how to deal with his abuses?
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I am, by this time, terribly confused and my therapist is away for two weeks, and I don't know what to do.
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I'd find another therapist who could or would actually help me!
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How can I know if I'm abusive, in which case, have I turned a nice, gentle guy into this man, full of hatred because of my own past?
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It seems that your therapist has already answered this question: "she told me I don't really have anger problems; it's because my boyfriend and I aren't compatible." so this seems settled, IMO.
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Please, if anyone can help, I would really like to have some answers. 
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I'd stay completely away from an abuser like him and I'd look for a more useful therapist, if I were you.
good luck,
jim
