I am taking care of my friends 5 year old daughter while she gets help for depression, it will be at least a year before we can even think about her moving back in with her mom, yesterday I was told it'll probably be 2. I was using timeout as a discipline strategy and then I stopped to see if talking to her each time she misbehaved would work. It hasn't worked at all, her kindergarten teacher who fully understands her situation (the little girl is in therapy for being molested) called me today and said I needed to have a talk with her and fix her behavior or she was getting kicked out. She kicked two kids, hasn't listened at all, drew on another kids paper and spit at someone else, that's not even the half of it.
At home she's been just as out of control and I am wondering if I should go back to using timeout or if there is another punishment that will work better. I'm open to trying anything.
I did finally get to talk to her mom once. I didn't tell her about the behavior problem. But at the end of the conversation she said "oh and if she gives you any trouble spank her a few times , that will get her attention." I don't know if I feel OK doing that to a molested child.