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Originally Posted by hamster-bamster
I would go back to prostitutes to have an experience with the uncircumcised penis but in a familiar setting. I mean - you are paying them, you are not raping them, so it is a fair exchange. You have two new things going in your life: your penis is basically brand new, and you want to have sex without paying for it.
Would it be smarter to do it one step at a time - first, build up confidence having (presumably safe, right?) sex with prostitutes. Having built up the confidence, start trying to find a female partner.
I do not know much about the range of services offered by prostitutes, but someone on here reported how caring the prostitutes were and how very educational the sessions with them were. They taught that young man many things and acted to remove what you call "complexes".
Now, this was reported on here and I do not know to what extent it was true, but it won't hurt to ask especially given that it won't be your first visit so you know the milieu and are oriented to it.
There is also what is called a confounding effect. you are analyzing your issues now and you have many "maybes" - maybe it is lack of experience, maybe it is this, but no you are not timid, etc. So if you deal with your maybes one by one, it will be easier to finally pinpoint the source of the trouble.
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Originally Posted by Big Mama
I know that this is totally now what I would recommend to most people. And I am kind of surprised to even be thinking this way. But I agree with Hamster. Going back to a prostitute might not be such a bad idea. I don't know whether you see the same prostitute, several different ones or just what ever one is available in the time frame you are looking for.
If you have a prostitute you see regularly then maybe start there (or one of the few you are a regular client of) If you could see one that you had sex with before that would be a huge help. You may could ask for a comparison of now versus a before surgery. That could be an excellent way to boost your confidence level and get an idea of how it will feel in a fairly safe environment rather then having a first time with someone you are dating.
If you are dating someone at the moment, then please don't go to a prostitute. That is a sure way to hurt someone else and end a relationship.
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Hi, and thank you both.
Not that I mean to just be contrary, but escorts became sooo very expensive compared to this same time last year. And I'm unemployed. And there was one of them I was very fond of, probably the person I felt more confident with ever. But I don't know where she is now. I wasn't able to track her down, which makes me think she's given up the business.
This morning, I woke up with such a strange feeling, like a pressure on my chest. Not precisely a panic attack (something I'm familiar with, and I can tell when it is as such), but a huge amount of anxiety. I'm freaking out for not knowing the future and what's it's going to be. I feel not the need but the urge to be with somebody, I crave the touch of another human being's skin and flesh. And I'm affraid that following that desperation will lead to major mistakes.
I don't want to rush things, of course. But it's like they'd not only removed my penis' foreskin, but also some kind of metaphorical skin that was covering up my heart. My glans feels highly sensitive (and sometimes uncomfortable), and my heart feels highly sensitive (and sometimes uncomfortable) too. And I feel like falling in love with almost every girl I run into, which, from a pragmatic angle, is impossible. And I beat myself up over not having asked anyone of them out, and that's when I see myself as a failure and finally getting along with someone as something so very far away in the future.
Sorry, I'm just being pathetic.