Hello. I am new to these forums. I would appreciate any advice.

I am 22 years old and my boyfriend is 33. We have been together for almost two years. We have had problems in our relationship, off and on.

I do love him and care for him, but I have only been in one serious relationship with him, and it has always made me wonder if I am missing out. We do fight often. For the most part, we have the same ideals, but often our goals in life our different. I think he has a lot of communication problems. I'm not perfect, but the difference with me is I often jump to admit I am not perfect and could work on a lot of things, were he does not. I am willing to go to counseling and do things to better our relationship. He is more hesitant, and stuck in his ways and beliefs.

I found out I was pregnant a month ago. I want to keep the baby, and he does too. This has caused a lot of stress and depression for me however. First, I don't want to marry him. If that changes, I am not sure it will, but I know a lot of people say this isn't a big concern right now. I just don't know again if I will want to settle with him even forever. We have lived together for a year, so living together and raising the baby will be difficult but I think at least since we have lived together we know what this is like. But I know it will change. He is more optimistic though, but sometimes too optimistic. I don't know if he realizes how much will change.

I am worried because we can fight a lot, and we will only fight more. Sometimes it's small things, but mostly it's things like his communication problems. He can be very rude and obnoxious randomly, and does not realize it. He also cuts me off all the time or treats his endeavors to be so much more important. He is also extremely messy, I feel like I have to clean up for a two year old. After two years, he hasn't improved much. He says hes too busy, and I know sometimes he is, but sometimes he makes excuses. He also puts tasks he wants to do over tasks like spending time with me often or responsibilities.

I am depressed because also I know that financially, we need to live together and we will struggle. I am just coming out of school and struggling very much financially, and he already has a good job. Both of us together still aren't doing as good as I'd like , but still I know I need him to support financially. He wants to also.

My concern is everyday I just worry about us splitting. If things get so bad, it concerns me that if I leave him or we both leave each other, this will effect the child. I know someone might say I was irresponsible, I understand. I still want to take care of this child. But I feel depression everyday for our relationship, and the possibility of anything being scarring on our child.