I can feel your frustration. I actually don't know what to say. I think transference and the relationship are the vehicle through which therapy works so I just don't understand how it would work otherwise.

But I do psychoanalytic and haven't done CBT. I had heard that CBT people were now trying to add in stuff about the relationship, but I don't know how it would be handled.

Strange because the therapeutic relationship has more effect than the theoretical approach so you would think that all therapists would consider it part of the therapy.