[QUOTE=loophole;3989861]It's his choice to react. .. I think people are a bit quick here to only imply it's his choice to react... bipolar isn't an excuse for our bad behavior.. such as non stop whining and complaining. ... now please hear me out.. I'm in no way shape or firm trying to condone his behavior in the slightest... even if he's not directly hitting you he may as well.. throwing things at you is basically the same thing in my opinion.... however your the only one that can control yourself...[/

I agree - I always take responsibility for my behavior when I realize I've erred, bipolar or not, and I've admitted to him that I got more upset than I should have. But rationally I know there was also no excuse for him to attack me. I had complained and *****ed off and on for 36 hrs, but it was a pretty monumental and hurtful message he and his sister sent me. I also wasn't yelling or swearing or anything when I told him I felt hurt that night. Now, if I'd *****ed at him about it for a week or more, I can see how a more extreme reaction would be warranted, but deep down I know there's never an excuse for violence. The question is whether our relationship can survive the violent incident and the things he later said to me. :-(