Hi.. I'm new the the forum.. I have a female family member who is going through a nasty divorce, after 25 years of marriage and 2 grown children. It has been in mediation for about 3 years now and every time it looks like being finalised, there seems to be new financial claims brought up by both sides. The claims seem to me to be quite over the top - on his side he wants her superannuation because he has spent his and her side she wants expenses money for the 2 over 18 kids who are still living with her - they both work part time and go to uni.

From what she has said she wants more than half and that seems to be the problem. He left the family when the eldest turned 18. My concern is that any subject we talk about at family get togethers ends up with her telling us things about the divorce she has told us many times before over the last 3 years. She is also declining invitations to socialise yet seems jealous and narky of others who attend social functions. She is angry her daughter spends time with her dad and that he has a new girlfriend. She is taking anti-depressants and talking to a councillor and at times seems to be getting on with her life, but then something will happen to trigger her and she will be obsessing again. We don't know what to do to help her and don't think that listening to her going over and over things is helping either. My parents are elderly and very upset about the whole thing. They have also lost their son-in-law because we are too scared of her reaction to keep in touch with him. Any suggested you have on how to cope with this situation would be greatly appreciated.