(((Sky)))
I think the couples' counseling would be good - it may give you some clear answers, I know it did for me. I would absolutely not give up on your individual therapy though. Plenty of people do individual and couples' at the same time. With what you say about looking for help from people who can't help you but don't want to admit it I think you have some serious transference going on. This is definitely something that you can work on with your individual T. And no, I don't for a minute think you keep picking lousy Ts. I think you keep dragging your stuff from T to T and you need to stop giving up on yourself.