Listen to bluedonna92 there's some sound advise there. I've been where you are now, bullied all through school and beyond, when I was 19 I had a few women who fancied me (I found out later in life, didn't have a clue at the time) but my self-esteem was so low I didn't recognize it. There was one women who was determined to 'de-flower' me, looking back she was really coming on strong but again my self-image wouldn't allow me to see it....oh the missed opportunities.

Everything changed once I built my self esteem to a healthy level. If you want to lead a happy life and be able to talk to women you need to build it up, in my opinion it's essential to a happy life.

Unfortunately, it's not something that will happen overnight, I found it to be a journey of a few years. You'll need a support system, friends, family, a support group, surround yourself with as many positive people as you can and their positivity will rub off on you.

Create a self-esteem bucket list of at least 100 things that make you feel anxious, from the small stuff right through the the big stuff, then work your way through it, as you tick stuff off your list your self esteem will grow.

The words you use in everyday life affect your experience of life. Change the words you habitually use, if you say you're depressed everyday and that word make you feel bad, remove it from your vocabulary and change it to something with a smaller emotional impact like 'I'm feeling a bit down', do the reverse for the good things, if you routinely talk about being OK, change it to being fantastic.

Keep a notebook handy, or use a smart phone, collect quotes from movies, famous people etc and review regularly, the quotes need to be relevant to the struggles you face daily and need to help you overcome them, for example, you keep failing at everything, then use the quote from Batman The Dark Knight 'Why do we fall down sir, only to learn to pick ourselves up'.

There are loads of ways to build self esteem, try books from Stephen Covey, Anthony Robbins, Maxwell Maltz, read them and do the exercises. The important thing is that you take responsibility for building your self esteem and do what is necessary to build it up.

Good luck

Darren