It does take some women longer than other to connect with their babies. Some women just can't connect with their babies while they're still in the womb. Don't beat yourself up. It may come later after you give birth when you see your baby, or when you're nursing him or her, or even at some other moment such as when you're just watching them sleep, and you realize what a beautiful miracle you made, and you can't picture your life without them. There are a very small percentage of women who never feel that mothering instinct. In in fact, you have your baby and realize you're in that small percentage, all I can advise you to do is, join an amazing church where you'll have a great support system, and your child will have lots of people who will love them, because they are really going to need to get extra love from many other sources. And you will have to be an extra attentive mother if you don't feel a connection to your child. This will be something that you really have to put the effort into to make sure that your child doesn't feel like they aren't loved or not wanted by you. You would never want them to feel like that so you'll have to work extra hard to make up for a lack of having a connection, which if you don't have it, that's not your fault, some women just aren't blessed with it unfortunately, which isn't fair for you or the child. All you can do is make sure you do your best to never let them know that's the way you really feel inside, no matter what. You would never want to hurt your child. It would scar them emotionally for the rest of their lives. Anyway, I have high hopes that at least after you see your baby, and have some time to bond with him or her and hold them in your arms, and touch their little tiny hands and feet, and little ears, nose, and cute little baby lips, when you see them nurse, or even nursing from a bottle, however you choose to feed you baby, all of those things bond you to you baby. That's really when you fall in love with that tiny little being. It's like no other love you can imagine until you experience it. So just wait until the baby gets here, and then, if it doesn't happen, we'll worry, okay? But, just know that lots of knew soon to be mom's have these same worries that you do. You're not alone. If you need to, pm me anytime. Carol.