My husband and I have been married 10 years and have 4 young children. He is active duty military and currently deployed and away from home. We have had many different conversations that led up to his wanting a divorce and not being in love with me. We still spoke daily , and without fighting . Last night I discovered the reason for his sudden wish for a divorce. I had said no to other women. That I didn't want to have other women in our life. With that hard limit he was willing to leave me and my kids to attain this. Do we mean that little to him? Trying to understand this is tearing me apart.he says there currently isn't anyone. He says that he is still attracted to me but that by me setting that limit it was the end. I am trying to get him into therapy with me. We are also exploring the D/s lifestyle but I feel that his "friends" who are in it are effecting his choices and possibly contributing to the fall of our marriage