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Originally Posted by skies_
That is so sad to hear.
I've read that trauma inhibits the ability to both give and receive love fully.
Depressing.
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Yes, my T has said something similar to this as well. She talked about how if I am closed off, I can't give or receive love or connect to others fully, or be fully known. It's odd because I've lived this way my whole life.
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Originally Posted by growlithing
"Our hearts go into hiding"... she wouldn't say that unless she wanted me to (playfully) mock her for months. So cheesy.
I guess the new intern I just started seeing speaks English as a second language. I don't know her very well at all and I have no idea what kinds of things she would say. Her English seems pretty good but it's still a second language for her. I would not give someone a hard time for saying something corny like that when a non native speaker will always just use phrases a little differently than a native speaker would.
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I did think of it as cheesy and weird (and somethingi didn't understand) at first. But I think she's right.
She's been saying recently as I tell her about how much more things are impacting me emotionally (I have been more sad, angry, upset, etc...) that it's my heart "waking up" and finally allowing me to feel what others feel all the time. I'm not sure I'm a fan of that yet. It's a little overwhelming because I am not used to it.
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Originally Posted by Aloneandafraid
Just yesterday we were discussing my "numb" state and she explained that this is something either flight or fight and the third option is freeze. Actually I was so embarrassed at this point I don't remember exactly what she said but she reassured me that it was okay not to fight back when being attacked (verbally) by friends and family - that this is a way of coping. I am very ashamed and embarrassed but it was good to hear this.
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Mine has mentioned freezing when dealing with trauma and abuse as well. I think that's how I handle what I went through.
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Originally Posted by sweepy62
She didn't say the heart thing, she did say our feelings go numb and we go into hiding. I understand what she meant by the heart thing. We sometimes lose empathy along the way, because we do lock and hide those positive as well as negative feelings.
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It's very true that I lost empathy for others. I have had such a hard time being able to connect with others and understand them, and really be there for them because of it. It felt too threatening to allow myself to really feel with them.