But having a good therapeutic alliance doesn't necessarily mean focusing on transference, that's not the key point upon which efficacy rests, and not every therapist is going to go there. She can't transform her therapist into someone he's not, practicing a style he doesn't want to practice. I think it's important for the client to accept that and be realistic about what's going to occur in each therapy space. That is, of course, if indeed she's been straightforward regarding what she wants to discuss and work through, and I'm not perfectly clear on that as when she's described some past attempts at dealing with it, they've been very indirect and her perceptions have sometimes also been based on inferences rather than direct verbal communication.

But she's clear enough that she's seeing a second therapist who's style is more helpful regarding the transference, so... clearly she has found it easier to relate to that therapist regarding the deeper work she wants to do.