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Originally Posted by Lauliza
Can you accomplish what you want with just the psychodynamic therapist since you prefer his style? Many will incorporate elements of CBT into the work if they are flexible and it is what you need. Or is there a reason you need to see two different ones? Your CBT t is handling the transference fine, it's just that it isn't really part of the work in this type of therapy. CBT is usually centered in the here and now, so he would be more interested in how you cope with your feelings for him than where they originate from. What kind of outcome are you looking for in an in depth conversation with the CBT T? I'd think discussing your feelings for both of them with with the psychodynamic T would be just as productive. It's not really the individual men as people but what they represent. That's not something a T who's strictly CBT oriented is going to get into. Its not right or wrong it's just not what CBT is really about.
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Well there are certain things T2 hasn't touched upon yet. (CBT T= T1, psychodynamic T= T2) Mostly because the things we've talked about haven't exactly required CBT. I came to him for "deeper" work, and in that sense it has been very very helpful.
The post by Grimtopaz actually helped me understand CBT more than I ever have...which is weird. Reading it just clicked. And I realize that T1 has actually been conducting this therapy exactly how he SHOULD. I was just expecting different things. I mean, he has mentioned that he borrows from a few other approaches, so he's not ENTIRELY CBT, but that seems to be his main area of focus. I guess I thought that's why I could get a little wiggle room, and the more I think about it, I have. He's taken liberties with me that he didn't even have to. We've talked about my feelings probably more than he's even required to as a CBT T. And, he's tried to help me through them the best way he knows how. All this time I've been getting resentful because I thought he didn't care to talk about it in depth. He's kept me in super long sessions, and is always honest. We only go as far as I want to. (as in, we only talk about what I bring up). He's never really dismissed a subject before, but rather tries to lead me ultimately to stop processing so much and look at facts.
So...looking back, it's all fine. I just have to ask myself if it's what I want. And truthfully, I want both. Now that I've realized that's how he operates, I feel a million times better. It's weird, cause T2 has super strict boundaries, where as T1, basically anything goes.