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Originally Posted by vonmoxie
Simple solution would be to ask them -- and tell them the concerns you have. Will probably be a long answer, as it wouldn't be any one thing that clued them in, but a combination of effects, none of which would on their own tip anyone off as individually those things could be the result of many different things. Only someone very knowledgeable about trauma psychology would be in a position to put it all together -- and it's a credit to them that they could. I never had any that specialized in trauma psychology, or that even drew conclusions which pointed to them having acquired any particularly relevant knowledge along the way. None of mine spotted it on their own, nor had any idea how to handle it once I started sharing on the topic.
There have been times that I felt everyone could tell something about me, and in my case that feeling has gone away on its own every time. It may be that you just need time to acclimate to the fact that you're talking about it at all.
Good luck.  |
I was thinking about asking her next week but I think I already know how it will go down.
Me: "how did you know?"
Her: "I just knew"
Me: "No like what specifically"
Her: "Oh my god growli I just knew"
Me: "That's a horrible answer"
Her: "What are you worked about?"
Me: "Why are you avoiding my question?"
Her: "I'm not. I just answered it. I just knew"
Me: "and I said that answer was terrible"
Her: "well you just learn to pick up on these things when you work with people"
Me: "what did I do that made you pick up on anything?"
Her: "oh my god you're such a piece of work you know that right?"
Me: "yes and you're supposed to be working on me"
Her: "yes and you are avoiding getting worked on right now by running me in circles. Listen *actually answers question"
lol this is basically a conversation we had today when I asked for a hug and she said no and I asked her why she hugs me some days and not others. This is all very playful btw. I got my hug in the end dumb woman lol.