1. Psychological damage to my wife and kids.

The more control I have over myself the better off for everyone... I do much better now with my wife then before... alot of that has to do with kids being around.. I'm trying to make that aspect more about her feelings rather then the kids though. .

2. Losing my job...

This is more of a mental hurtle then reality.... odds of losing my job is seriously near 0 but the fact I support my 3 kids and wife by myself (financially). I put way more stress on myself that is completely unnecessary not to mention unhealthy.